I have memories of many things in my childhood. Most memories are very good and there are a few that sting a little. One particular memory is one in which my parents called me into our kitchen because there was a family standing there that was in need. They had a small son about my age and they asked me if I would like to pick out some toys that the little boy could have since I had so many toys and he did not. I struggled at first but quickly resolved that the right thing to do was to give him some toys. As I searched for which ones to give him, everyone waited to see what my decision would be. So I wouldn’t disappoint my parents, I gave him my favorite toys. I even guided him in how “I liked” to play with them. So in some way perhaps I could “enhance” his experience with them. It was also my way of saying goodbye to “my favorite” toys. This event shaped my internal programming for many years. I had an internal program that said, “Someone else should have that instead of you” and almost a sense that it would be wrong for me to aspire to have something of great value. I share this with you to hopefully spark something within you. Something that perhaps has you programmed to a default setting. Since I have realized this belief system within myself, I have made adjustments and am now moving in a much different direction. If I can make an adjustment to my course, so can you.
I love XM radio and a certain facility that I service has the best music ever. I could go all day listening to the smooth sounds of easy listening pop music. Everything from 80s music to current hits. All good music and all with some life to it. I went for the longest time trying to listen for any clue of what station they were playing so I could tune in on the way home. Once I finally found out, I quickly made the adjustment on my radio and programmed the station into my memory. So, in life what station are you listening to? Are you tuned into the right frequency? I have found that sometimes we need to pay attention to what successful people are listening to and get that programmed into our memory. I have a personal coach. He helps me mostly as I get under his influence and begin to think how he thinks and listen to what he listens to. We all have someone that we can locate who is farther along than we are and when we get in tune with them, we find they listen to a different message than most people. They are tuned into a much higher frequency and they can equip us to get tuned in as well. When we tune into success, we will find ourselves achieving upward momentum. When we go higher, there is access to frequencies that we could not otherwise receive had we stayed at that lower level. So, how about you? Want to go higher? Tune-in to someone at a higher level and get ready to up-level.
Focus is such a huge part of our lives because what we focus on is always what we hit. Think about baseball or even swinging a hammer and you will know what I mean. What we focus on is what we hit every single time. In the same way, what we focus on in life we gravitate towards. Just like a radio station, tune in long enough and you will find yourself settling into the rhythm. If we want to up-level our capacity, we must tune certain things out. These are the things that pull us down and even the things that don’t push us up. If we want to tune up, we have to tune out. Tune out the negativity, tune out the “I can’t”, tune out always talking about the problems. We have to get rid of the “noise pollution” of obstruction so we can hear the sweet sounds of opportunity. It’s not enough to just tune in to the right things because our bandwidth picks up all those other frequencies. We have to purposefully not go there. We have to make adjustments to our patterns and realign our antennae. When you do you will find that success never sounded so good. Want to learn more? Click HERE
Touch that dial – Do you remember the commentator on television and radio that said, “Don’t touch that dial”? This was a message to keep us tuned into the station we were on because they wanted to sell us something more. I can remember the old radios that you had to manually turn the dial and adjust it according to how much static you had. You would tune into your favorite songs and even your favorite stories as the voice on the radio would tell them to not touch the dial. If you had a certain interest or needed specific information you would turn the dial to the station that was transmitting what you wanted or needed most. In our lives, if we want a tune-up, we must touch the dial. We must tune out the station that doesn’t have what we need to the one that does. We must tune out “I can’t”, tune out “I would but…”, tune out “I don’t know how” and tune in “I am well able”, tune in “I will”, and tune in “I will learn how”. To get a proper tune-up it takes tuning in and you can only do that if you “touch that dial.”
How do you give yourself a tune up? – There is something frustrating about a car that sputters and coughs. It has no power and it is difficult to drive. It is totally unreliable on cold, wet mornings and it gets terrible fuel economy. Our lives are much the same when it comes to how we run. If we are not dialed in, then we spit and sputter, grumble and growl, moan and groan. We are difficult to lead, we are a drain on resources and we are totally unreliable when the environment is challenging. Sound familiar? Well when we get like this, we need a tune up. Because we are created beings we are called to be creative which always calls us UP to new heights. To get tuned up we have to get dialed in. I will explain more in the next blog what that process is. Join my free class HERE
What about when it’s raining? Do you ever have those times when the wind blows and you can’t see for all the rain? It makes it hard to work outside when this happens. In times like this we clearly must move indoors and this presents an opportunity where much can be learned from this place. We then begin to reflect on our work, where we have come from, the course we are on, and more importantly where we are going to. This reflection time is initially seen as an interruption in our schedule, a monkey wrench in the spokes of our plan. Yet it is in this time of reflection that we become more aware because we have given ourselves time to think. If we would make time to carve out this thinking time, this reflection time, we would be more productive, we would gain insight and clarity, and we would not be so disappointed when it starts raining.
What does it take to build a bridge? John Maxwell wrote a book on “How Successful People Think”. This is because John understands and wants us to understand that what you do always starts with how you think. We tend to think in terms of what we know or what we have experienced before. You might say we are tuned into a certain frequency. But just as with a radio, if we adjust our dial, we then see that there is a lot going on in the world that we were simply not tuned into. There is always more around us. More information, more activity, more possibility. To tap into greater possibility, we must adjust our dial and tune into a bigger frequency.
Where do you want to go? Where are you dreaming of? My wife asks me this question a lot whenever she wants to talk about vacation. Sometimes it is when we have just come from a vacation. This is because she enjoys dreaming. The focus on these dreams causes us to move in the direction of them. We begin to plan and research, set a course, load the car and head out. Complete with our bag of goodies and DVDs for the kids, we are now on a journey to see new things and create new memories. All along we sought to plan a journey that we could tell others about and all along the way we crossed bridges that someone else had built. We succeeded in our quest, helped others on their quest for fun by telling them where we had gone and we did it all by entering through the success of someone else who had a dream, a vision, a purpose to build a bridge. The test of a true success is when others can enter into it and be successful as well.
In the mid-1800s iron began to be used to build bridges for a few reasons. It was cheaper and more durable. This was led by the industrial revolution in Great Britain. In 1773, Thomas Farnolls had an idea. His idea joined two communities, became the center of commerce and changed the way people would think about the word “possibility”. Everyone marveled at this structure that joined beauty of design with pure strength. This bridge survived what is known as “The Great Flood of 1795”. Everyone across the world now wanted to use a material that was available all along. They were just unaware of its capability. Capability increases possibility. When we increase our capacity, we can increase our impact.
Covered bridges are beautiful. My wife and I look forward to someday touring the Northeast to not only see the fall foliage but to also see the many covered bridges that are there. The pictures we have seen are breathtaking. It caused me to wonder why a bridge would be covered. History tells us that the life span of an uncovered bridge would be 10-15 years so the premise of covering the bridge was to extend the life cycle of the bridge so the weather would not produce a decay as quickly. We could also see different designs which could lengthen the span of bridges. So, the design and the maintenance of the bridge were considerations to produce a long lasting, farther reaching structure. How far do you want to reach? How long do you want your legacy to last? To live a life that keeps on living, sow a seed that keeps on giving.